Should expectations have limits when it comes to love?

Lately I have been wondering whether my expectations for love are too high.  I have always dreamed of "fairy tale" love.  Maybe that is my answer, that the kind of love I'm looking for is labeled as fairy tale love.  When is it settling and when are you being unrealistic?  

I am constantly being told by my friends to give guys a chance.  I seem to get this instant feeling of whether I am into a guy or not, or if this is a guy for me and for the last 4 years I haven't had that feeling.  Maybe I am making up my mind too soon, maybe I should wait a little longer before I write them off.  

What if you wait your whole life for something that never comes?  What if what you want isn't realistic?  Or what if it is, what if there is this great fairy tale love out there and you just aren't patient enough?

Should I listen to everyone else and just date around until I'm comfortable enough to spend the rest of my life with that person, or wait?  I seem to be the only one still in fairy tale mode... you know when your young, you and all of your girlfriends have the same "romeo-juliet-princess-prince-live-happily-ever-after" view of love.  Then as you get older the numbers dwindle down and it seems now at twenty-three, I am the only one left standing.  

When is it time to stop dreaming and grow up?

Action above words

So I recently watched and read "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. He was a professor who was diagnosed with cancer and given 3-6 months to live. He gave a "last lecture", traditionally done by professors who are retiring, however Randy's case was special, it really would be his last lecture. He gave some incredible advice about really living your life and following your childhood dreams. I recommend that everybody should at the very least watch the lecture online.

Anyways, one chapter was about advice he heard from a female co-worker which he said was "pound for pound the best advice he ever heard". His co-worker told him "it took awhile but I finally figured it out. When it comes to men who are romantically interested in you, completely ignore everything he says and only pay attention to what he does"

I love it!! I bet that every girl can look back on her relationships and at one time or another been hypnitised by what a guy was telling her. I don't know what it is about some guys, but they know exactly what to say to charm you. They know exactly what you want to hear. But these words mean nothing if they are not mirrored in the guys actions.

It's like that quote from the movie Brown Sugar. The main character is using Rap and Hip Hop as a metaphor for her feelings for two different guys. "Rap and Hip Hop are two different things. It's like the difference between saying 'I love you' and actually being in love. Rap is just a word."

Anybody can say "I love you". The trick is weeding out the liars.... and so I say again... to all women out there... don't listen to anything your man says until you have paid attention to his actions. And there in his actions is the truth.... and the truth will set you free.